Most girls my age are on their 3rd or 4th sexual partners, some even more. Others have had their first babies. This is not a trend I plan on following. Sex used to be something you weren’t supposed to discuss, let alone do out of wedlock. Then, sex became something what was sacred and was only supposed to be shared with the person you were having it with. Now the meaning of sex is unclear. It has become something that all of the “cool kids” are doing. Everyone is having sex and no one is ashamed to talk about it. Contrary to popular belief, I am not saying you should be. If you aren’t having sex, people tend to think something is wrong with you; morals have completely gone out the window. It is very rare these days, to find a young woman that is a virgin. Losing your virginity at a young age has become a standard and a way of life for most young girls. Young girls are getting pregnant everyday. With the media glorifying celebrity pregnancies, girls are beginning to think that pregnancy is glamorous and that it’s just a walk in the park. These girls have no idea what being pregnant does to your body, especially at a young age when your body isn’t physically ready to go through that.
So many complications come along with having sex. Besides the obvious things like pregnancy and STDs, sex changes who you are mentally and emotionally. Being twenty-two is already a struggle in itself; this is enough stress for me. I work my butt off everyday to get where I am. I am finally moving out and away from the comforts of living rent free, having my food paid for and my laundry done by someone else on a regular basis. I’ve got enough things to worry about! No need to throw in a boyfriend with an overly demanding sex drive. I like where I’m at in my life. Do I wish things were different sometimes? Of course I do, who doesn’t? However, if things were meant to happen this way, then this is how they will happen. I have a very hectic work schedule. Any time I have off is spent cleaning, hanging out with family and friends, running errands; and in the off chance that I get some alone time, sleeping. I’m not saying that I don’t have time for a boyfriend because, trust me, I will make time. But I just don’t have time to get emotionally caught up in anything.
Friends of mine have become my inspiration in a way. Now, even though the chances of their situations happening to me are slim to none, there are still valuable lessons learned. Recently, I sat down with a good friend of mine and we discussed our former high school classmates. A huge chunk of those girls have since gotten pregnant, married, or a combination of both. I don’t know their individual circumstances so I can’t judge or comment really, but something has to be said when a large majority of the girls I know have babies.
I had a friend in high school who thought that being a mom was the greatest thing in the world, and she’s right. The only problem with this theory is that she was a junior in high school. She was in a somewhat steady relationship with the guy she was sure she would never break up with, (she has since married another guy), and she got pregnant more than once. A few miscarriages, a few years and an abortion later, they finally ended their relationship. Now, at 24, she is happily married and pregnant with her second child and is in a good place now. Some of the other girls I went to school with aren’t in such a happy place. My point with all of this is that you never know what is going to happen. No matter how safe or smart you think you are being so many unexpected things can happen. And to most of us, statistically, a lot of these things will.
That's it for tonight, hopefully this series will inspire young girls and guys to wait.
Many blessings xoxo
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